I have been helping coach others in their fitness journey for over a year now. The battles we face with women are hard. We see all these images…we create ones in our head of what we are “supposed” to be. We want to find comfort in our skin.
When I finished my first challenge group two years ago my biggest transformation came at the end…and it wasn’t my weight loss. My biggest transformation came with me finding comfort in my skin. That is what motivated me to reach out and help others.
If I had a top 5 things I shared with women to help them when they struggled to see progress in their journey, they would be:
I wanted to let them know there were other ways to see progress. I wanted them to see the beauty of the journey to find the freedom I had. And I found that pointing out the many ways to measure that was crucial so that they could have patience with themselves in their journey.
Now I am 15 weeks post pardum…
It has opened my eyes to a deeper level of comfort in my skin. Being comfortable in the journey and learning to re-live the words I so often speak to my challengers.
My body is slowly going back…but I have had to battle the lie that I am ugly, the lie that I won’t ever fit into my clothes again, the lie that others will see my post pardom pooch in the videos and pictures and make fun of me.
I have had to realize that true freedom comes from being comfortable in your skin even when you have not reached your goal.
And it’s NOT EASY TO DO.
We want to see progress…and the scale is one major way we do this…why?
That is why I love these groups of women who support one another. We are much gentler with others than with ourselves!
I would not be able to do this without the support of my coach, my team, my challengers…
I am so thankful.
The biggest lie I face is that because it’s “taking me so long” (quotes because that is the lie) to get back to where I was, that I am a failure.
What is The truth???
I am a real woman
I have 6 kids
I take care of my body
I have stretch marks
I have cellulite
I hate push ups!
I love to sweat!
I look in the mirror and struggle some days.
I look in the mirror and smile some days.
I miss a workout from time to time.
I love chocolate and wine (and beer).
I want to be a good example to my children and I know I fall short sometimes.
My worth is not measured by a scale or by my mistakes. It’s found in who I am now. I can not decrease my value or increase it…
The scale has not been moving drastically…
I’m a nursing mamma…and I have to make sure I eat enough!!
The measurements have not changed drastically…
Little by little the muscle builds and the inches come off. (This is after 5 weeks of Max30)
I worry that you are comparing yourself to me, just as I have caught myself doing that with others…
I don’t want others to think that I am perfect…that I don’t struggle…that I have abs of steel…
The only way to dispel the lie is to name it and claim the truth…
I want to show you my truth and tell you I am comfortable here…
I will keep pressing play to get stronger. I will keep eating healthy to stay healthy. I will eventually be able to put on my shorts…
But that is not what defines me. This picture shows one part of me in my journey. The greatest transformation to me is happening in my heart.
I now understand my challengers in a deeper way. I now see that comfort in your skin does not have to happen when we reach our goal…
It can be part of the journey.
I hope his helps at least one person. You are not alone in your journey. I would love to chat with you about where you are and where you would like to be. Please reach out!
I know I could never do this alone…
You are not alone either. Know you are beautiful and you are loved.